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The Clements’ IVF Journey

NEW BLOG July 13, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — Aria @ 11:26 am

I am migrating over to Blogger because WordPress only allows a couple dozen layouts, and you have to pay for an “upgrade” to customize a layout. This one is the girliest there is, and it’s still dark. Also embedding and other stuff isn’t allowed here. If you want the URL, comment and I’ll give it to you if I know you.


We found out yesterday… July 11, 2009

Filed under: Elations — Aria @ 11:09 am

…she’s a girl!!


Differing thoughts July 10, 2009

Filed under: Off topic — Aria @ 10:31 am

First thing first. The second will get its own post.

If you don’t like what I have to say in my own blog, then don’t come here. Easy as that. Don’t bitch that I’m posting things you don’t agree with here. I’ve had I think four people today alone tell me I’m “mean” and such for posting that I don’t agree with something they all think is okay (gender selection for the hell of it, not even to try avoiding a disease that only passes to one gender, but just because one sounds more fun or something). I also believe that abortion is appalling, especially third trimester abortion. Furthermore I don’t believe i god and believe the bible is a load of bunk. Have problems with this? Well, it’s easy to not come to my blog. Simply…don’t come here.

This is the adult world, and in the adult world, people have different beliefs and opinions. It’s very childish to expect everyone to either agree with you or to not state anywhere their beliefs that aren’t the same as yours. No one person is the center of the world, and it’s selfish to expect others to shut up if they don’t agree with you. Is this the expected outcome of protecting the fragile lil’ egos of kids? They grow up to not know how to handle others not agreeing with them, so freak out and complain, “You’re mean for saying something I don’t agree with in your blog!” You know what? Grow up. This wouldn’t be an issue at all if you could respect my right to believe and think what I do and not expect me to keep to hush-hush the way I respect your right to believe and think what you do and to not keep quiet. It’s called being an adult.

I have three people I consider to be my closest friends, and between them, we have drastically different beliefs on things such as abortion, gay rights, the death penalty, the war in Iraq, who should have won the presidency, and religion. Not a single one of them shares more than half of the same beliefs as me. In fact, I think only one of them shares even three of the same stances as I do. We are each incredibly firm in our stances. But we’re such good friends anyway because we RESPECT each other’s rights to think and say what we believe, and we don’t bother discussing a topic we know we can’t change the other’s view on. This is the adult thing to do.

And anyway, if one person should shut up, why should it be me instead of you? Because you don’t want to? There’s nothing so special about you that gives you the right to talk instead of me. There’s nothing so special about me that gives me the right instead of you. We are in America, and we have the SAME right to say what we think and believe. So if you want me to give up my right, then you better be willing to give up yours. If you’re not willing to, then you’re selfish for demanding I do it. Part of being an adult is being able to handle dissenting thoughts and beliefs and to either be able to discuss them or decide it’s not worth it and to walk away from the conversation. That’s easy too. Simply don’t say anything. An argument can’t go on if only one person’s talking, you know.


July 9, 2009

Filed under: Random thoughts — Aria @ 9:10 am

Complain about what is quoted in my blog from publicly-viewable sources and I’ll just link directly to it instead of quoting and altering usernames for a little privacy and not quoting. See, I believe in the Constitution of this country, and that included the first amendment as well as others ensuring that the first amendment isn’t abused (slander/libel, yelling Fire in a crowded building, etc.), and if what I’m quoting from a public source is relevant to what I am saying, then what’s the problem? Don’t say something publicly that you wouldn’t want quoted. Oh well, I guess I’ll just link instead of quoting, and one’s words will be linked directly to them rather than to an altered username. (Also WordPress has NO problem with quoting from public sources – it’s not illegal activity.)

Something I’m seeing more and more, in even just the last couple weeks, people who with to stifle the rights of others for their personal convenience. Well, if our leaders decided withhold rights, citizens freak, such as happened wen Bush suspended habeas corpus. It’s sad to think of my child being raised to bend over backward and walk away from Constitution rights because one person says so. We have Constitutional rights so we have some freedom in this country. If you value people having no rights, move to China.


Now going into the 20th week! July 8, 2009

Filed under: Weekly — Aria @ 12:40 am

At the end of this week, I’ll be at the halfway point! Well, halfway for people who get to go through full term and are lucky enough to have a natural childbirth rather than having to have a c-section a couple weeks before that. C-section I do not want. Healthy baby and to live through delivery okay I do.

The baby thumps are both fun and nauseating. Night before last I felt a bump from the outside of my abdomen! It’s weird to look down at my still relatively-flat tummy and to think that there’s a baby that’s somewhere around 6″ crown to rump in their. It’s also a creepy thought in a way. There’s a human being inside of me! Creepy as well as cool. As long as it doesn’t start drawing shapes through my abdominal wall before bursting out like that one movie with the alien coming out of some lady.

Cody’s been reading the What To Expect e-mail newsletters (yes, he reads these things as just one of his ways to be involved and keep up with what’s going on, which I appreciate so much), and the development newsletter on Monday showed what a baby at this stage looks like, and he said to me, “It looks like a human now!” It’s so sweet what he does – he often has his hand on my tummy to be closer to the baby, and is reading Hitchhiker’s Guide to the baby (and me). Who knows how much, if anything, the baby can detect, but the love radiating from him to the baby sure matters. Possibly the baby can hear his voice when reading, so hopefully the baby will get the chance to learn his voice to pick him out later.

Baby’s digestive system is busy creating meconium (a tarry black substance made of swallowed amniotic fluid, digestive secretion and dead cells), which will fill the first diaper after birth. And, speaking of the diaper situation… baby’s genitals are now fully formed!


Stupidity on Craigslist July 3, 2009

Filed under: Random thoughts — Aria @ 10:18 am

I found this ad on Craigslist:

Hi I have a clearblue fertility monitor and a box of 19 test sticks and a brand new box that has 30 in it I am asking best offer for all of it I will not separate I no longer need it because well I am pregnant and due in December I have to say that this monitor does work but it did take me 3 months to become pregnant (if you read about the monitor others had the same problem ) . I bought this brand new off amazon it took me 3 months to become pregnant and I havent used it for 3 months so its about 6 months old there is nothing wrong with it at all .Please email ms_[impatient] if you have any questions or want to offer me a price

OR I am willing to trade for anything to do with a baby ( maybe this is your second time trying for a baby and you want to plan it )(clothes ,toys etc. )

The highlighting it mine (and I changed part of the e-mail address). Since when is taking just three months to get pregnant a “problem”?  Seriously, she thinks it is a problem?  Though most people see a doctor after one year, taking up to TWO full years to conceive is completely normal.

Also, sewing curtains to put above a cradle from Ikea doesn’t make that cradle “one of a kind.”  That anyone would think so is kind of clueless.  Oh, but the “one of a kind” factor did result in the seller asking for more than the cradle would cost new.

Craigslist is funny to read sometimes.


18 weeks pregnant, and NEWS! July 1, 2009

Filed under: Pictures - Tummy — Aria @ 9:51 pm

136 pounds this morning. I haven’t weighed this much since spring of last year. I both feel fat but also am excited that it means baby, and I know I can get the weight off in no time afterward.

Also, the news! At 12:28 this afternoon, I felt what I think was the baby! About 4″ up from the bottom of my pubic bone and an inch to my right was where I felt a tickling feeling inside that didn’t feel like intestinal grumbling. It happened again this afternoon when I was driving and had Ozzy blaring on the radio.

Also, that’s Luthien to the left, and Emma to the right. Yeah, mama-dog is noticeably smaller than her baby.