Is this really necessary?
This is a toddler bed. For $75,000. Each of the wheels is crafted from 100 individual pieces of wood. Hand-carved, hand-tapered, hand-beveled, and the fabric is all silk.
Kids who are nothing more than status symbols get stuff like this and end up like Audrey, the girl who got a brand-spanking new $76,000-Lexus for her 16th birthday, then proceeded to throw a hissy fit and scream and cry that she hated her mother and her mother ruined everything and it’s “not really the car I wanted anyway” – because she got it on a day before her birthday instead of at the party. Audrey’s mom failed as a parent. Period. Any kid that snotty and spoiled means the parents failed. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
I was chatting with a friend today about people who have kids then pass them off to other people, which is sadly common in this area. Children are a status symbols, nothing more. How else can you explain this ad for a family looking for a “soft-spoken Mary Poppins type” with “All immunizations” (that’s actually listed), among other things, to be the latest collectible “Prada nanny” in this “a multi-staffed, household in Portola Valley” (the comma is there in the ad). The “Responsibilities include everything pertaining to the children, including driving, playing, dressing, feeding, light cooking or warming up food.” That is correct. Everything. But wait! That’s not all!! (You knew more was coming, like a late-night infomercial you can’t stop watching, maybe Billy Mayes, or that Vince-Sham-Wow guy.) They also want this whipping-girl, I mean, nanny, to double as an assistant. “And the assistant portion includes grocery shopping, gift buying, returning items, Internet research, buying on-line, bill paying, children’s parties coordination, photocoping, wrapping presents, etc.”
Paying their bills? All their shopping, from on-line stuff to gifts to groceries?! And there’s the lovely etcetera at the end. This is two full-time jobs wrapped into one 40-hour work week. There’s a reason why parenting is tiring, and that’s because you do all this yourself, but you also have more than 40 hours to do it and usually the other parent to share in the domestic side of things as well as the child-rearing responsibilities.
This family is looking for a “second mom” to “assist” a “stay-at-home mom“. But I want to know what this “stay-at-home mom” is doing all day if the “second mom’s” “Responsibilities include:
Offer loving, attentive childcare
Take children to parks, libraries, museums, classes, school, …
Prepare healthy meals
Perform light housekeeping (kitchen clean-up, laundry) and errands”
So the person they hire will be attending to the needs of the children, running the 4yo and 20-month-old to school and classes (whatever happened to letting children be children?), cooking for them, and cleaning. Pardon me if I’m overlooking something here, but what’s really left for the mom to do?
I know parenting is hard work, but what’s the point of having children if they’re just going to be handed off to someone else for everything even when one of the parents is a “stay-at-home mom? Why is the parent at home having a part in the actual raising of the children instead of hiring a full-time nanny to do it all? It’s one thing to have help that is just help, and another when someone else is responsible for every aspect of the child-rearing (and even running of the household). I’m not talking about families where both parents MUST work. No, these are families where one person doesn’t work to begin with and still hires someone to raise the kids.
If anyone were to tell me I had to hand my children off for 40 hours a week, I’d but the hand that tries to take them. Cody and I are having them, and that means WE will raise them.